The pandemic has changed so many aspects of our lives and it’s taking us all some time to adjust
Here are our top tips for navigating sex and relationships through COVID-19 (and beyond)
1. Get intimate
Sending nudes or sexting can be super fun (if you’re over 18, otherwise it’s illegal) and is a great way to get intimate with your partner from a distance! You can stay safe and sexy online by only sending nudes to people you trust and always getting consent before things get steamy (just like real life).
2. Communication is key
Communication is important in any relationship, especially right now when we can’t meet up in person, so try to check in with each other, even if it’s just to say what you had for breakfast. A great way to spend time together is to schedule dates where you do something together. We have loads of ideas for things you can do when you’re apart.
3. Follow national advice
At the moment, it’s important to keep yourself and others safe by following the latest guidance on having sex with new partners or people outside your home. Government advice will continue to change as the pandemic goes on, so it’s important that you check the latest guidance on being intimate before you hook up:
4. Remember to look after your sexual health
As always, it’s important to practice safe sex and look after your sexual health, now from the comfort of your own sofa. You can order an STI test online here and have it delivered discreetly to your door (the packages don’t give away what’s inside, which can be great if you’re living back with family).
Check up on any prescriptions you may have for repeat contraceptives, and order more if you need to. Most pharmacies are now offering click & collect services and some even deliver to your door. And if you’re isolating with a partner, condoms and other contraceptives are available to buy in most supermarkets and pharmacies, either online or in person.
- Here’s our full guide on how to get a sexual health check in the UK right now.
- Plus, here’s how to access other sexual health services and contraception.
5. Staying safe if someone wants to hook up
During the pandemic it’s possible that you and your partner may have developed different attitudes towards what’s safe during lockdown. It’s always best to follow the government’s guidelines during this time, which are generally to avoid contact with those outside your household.
It’s also important to observe your own personal boundaries, comfort and make sure everyone involved can express those boundaries freely. Much like any aspect of a sexual relationship, mutual consent is the most important thing!
Even though spending more time alone can feel scary and stressful, it could be a great time to indulge in some self lovin’. Exploring your sexuality and masturbating is nothing to be ashamed of, in fact it’s one of the best ways to learn about and get in touch with yourself. Watching porn can be a great starting point, but it’s important to remember that it’s not usually the best portrayal of healthy sexual relationships and body positivity: it’s entertainment, but not educational.
Arguably, the most difficult relationship to navigate during this pandemic has been our one with ourselves. It’s super important to make your mental health a priority in any situation, especially right now. So, if that means dancing in the kitchen, screaming into the void or buying overpriced skincare sets online, that’s all okay, in fact it’s great! At the moment we just all have to do whatever we can to keep ourselves positive and afloat.
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Last reviewed: 25 January 2021 | Image credit: Giorgio Trovato via Unsplash